Jeff Hayes

Born in TAMPA, FL on August 15, 1973

Departed on October 24, 2019 and resided in HENDERSONVILLE, TENNESSEE

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Mr. Jeffrey Scott Hayes, age 46, of Hendersonville TN passed away on October 24,2019. He was born on August 15, 1973 in Tampa, FL to Patrick Hayes and Cheryl Hamilton Hayes. He is preceded in death by his maternal grandparents, Alice Shaffer and M.L Hamilton; and paternal grandparents, Helen and Wendall Hayes.

Jeff was a big handy man. He loved finding things to “fix” and make new. He also enjoyed cooking for his family. He was loving husband, father, and son who will be truly missed.

Jeff is survived by his wife, Jennifer Hayes; children, Charity (Josh) Howard, Domonic Hayes, Gabriel Hayes, Jeffrey Jr. “J.J.” Hayes, and Scarlett Hayes; parents, Patrick and Cheryl Hayes; and one brother, Sean Hayes.

A life celebration will be held at 3pm, Wednesday, October 30, 2019 in the chapel of Hendersonville Funeral Home with burial in Hendersonville Memory Gardens. Family will receive friends one hour prior to the service.

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77 Comments to Jeff Hayes

  1. Cherie (Cheryl) Hayes
    October 26, 2019 8:11 pm

    Dear Jeffrey…Your precious face will be burned into my broken heart forever more. From the first day you came into this world, you were a cherished blessing. Your father was so proud to deliver you himself, and tell your story over & over through all 46 years of your life. You and Sean shared a room together many times throughout the growing up years, with many funny stories, too many to count. You guys loved to play tricks on each other, as well as have silent knock-down slug-fests (so I would not know you guys were going at it)! But now & again, you got busted, when I came in and caught you in the act! You and I had such a special bond, unlike most mothers and sons. At two years old, my lively, energetic, HEALTHY, little son got sick, with a terrible disease. God had to work on my heart to become grateful, instead of angry about that disease called diabetes. You were blessed to have been born after a thing called insulin shots came to be. So, I learned to be thankful I could be the one to give you your shots to keep you alive every single day. I could write a book about how much I wanted, and tried to solve all your life’ s problems…the physical and yes, especially the emotional, mental & spiritual ones. It took almost to the end of your life to figure out that “I” could not do that…no matter how many nights of prayers & tears I cried. It came to me that only the Lord God Himself could do those things…I had been getting in the way, possibly intercepting His will in your life. I always wanted to help and make things better. One day I will understand each of those times what I should have done. It’s very hard for me to sit back when I think I know something that might help. I am so sorry for all the hard times, the struggles and the heartaches you have endured in your short life. I wish I could change it all. You have five beautiful children that I will always look for you in their sweet faces. Each one has something special from you. You losing your sight was so traumatic. Somehow, I knew the next face you would ever see would be of Jesus! You have had your ups and downs in life that’s for sure. But no one was more effective and bold to share their faith, as you were, when your heart was focused on “Him” and the joy you had with a right relationship with your Heavenly Father. You were blessed with so much talent, skills, physical abilities, love, and even some pretty handsome good looks. Those beautiful blue eyes, no one could ever forget…they were like that right up to your last day. I am so comforted to know you will never suffer again, from hunger, physical pain, low or high blood sugar, those awful insulin reactions that hurt you in some many ways in your life, and heartaches (even though often they were caused by mistakes or not-so-good choices).
    Even with all of that, we are so proud of you as our son and would go through it all again, just to have you in our life.
    Forever, my favorite song will be “EVEN IF” by Mercy Me. Those words say it all and I stand by them always.
    Son, I pray the time will be ever so short til we once again see those beautiful blue eyes and we all can have hugs and kisses without end, for all eternity. I just pray God gives me the strength to “accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”. Thank you for those five precious grandchildren…I will always tell them good stories about their dad and the funny personality he had. Charity is already an amazing young woman, wife and someday she will be a mother herself. She will make you proud as you smile down from Heaven. Domonic,, is already such a handsome, tall and extremely intelligent young man, looking way more mature than 11 years old. Mr Gabriel, Mr. Personality, is also so sensitive and bright, he too is very smart. And then, Jeffrey Jr., what a little man, he favors you so much, you even noticed it. He definitely has your personality and handsome charm. The icing on the cake is your youngest child and the powerhouse over her 3 brothers, Miss Scarlett! You started with a girl, my first granddaughter, Charity Nicole, and ended with my second granddaughter, Scarlett Elizabeth Rose. What a wonderful “quiver” full of children you have. I pray the Lord lets you see all about each one of them as they grow up!
    I will miss that piece of my heart forever that we call Jeffrey Scott Hayes…I have and will always love you with all of my heart! I only wish I could have done more to make life easier for you these past 7 months, but I know Jesus can do all you need and more. You belong to Him but I am happy I had you in my life at least 46 years.

    Jeffrey,I love you with all of my heart and will for eternity…I will miss you always and forget nothing about you,
    Many hugs & kisses, Your Mom

    • Debbie Holp
      October 27, 2019 12:53 am

      Such a beautiful tribute!

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        October 28, 2019 10:48 am

        Thank you sister for the countless things you & Rodney have done and still are doing to help us through these difficult times. It would have been beyond difficult and painful without you being there for us in every way. We love you both very much.

        Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Michelle Zastrow
      October 27, 2019 6:41 am

      Such a heartfelt and beautiful tribute Aunt Cherie ❤

    • Cheryl Riely
      October 27, 2019 7:41 am

      Cherie, you and the family are in our continued thoughts and prayers. What a beautiful way to cherish all of your memories 💕

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        October 28, 2019 10:53 am

        Thank you for your words of comfort Cheryl, they mean so much to us.
        Love, Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Julia Burleson
      October 27, 2019 12:58 pm

      What a beautiful tribute Cherie , you’ve always had your children’s backs and been there for them thru thick and thin! God will bless you for being the mother you are! Know that your son is in a better place. no more chains pain, hearache or chains holding him down. He might have been blind but now he can see! Our Heavenly Father has his arms wrapped around him and thank God one day you will see him again! Our love and prayers are with the family during this time! ♥️

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        October 28, 2019 10:59 am

        Thank you Julie for your words of comfort and support in our time of such sadness & grief.
        It really does mean a lot.
        God bless you & all your family.
        In Christ’s Love,
        Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Terry Green
      October 27, 2019 10:38 pm

      Beautiful tribute to your son, Jeff.

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        October 28, 2019 11:03 am

        Thank you Teresa for your love and support during our time of such grief. You helped us so much at the worst moments of our life by reserving that room to rest in for two nights.
        We will be eternally grateful!
        I look forward to spending time with you & Debbie this week.
        May our Dear Lord and Savior bless & protect you & your family always,
        Love you so much,
        Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Tina Crumpler
      October 30, 2019 10:39 am

      What a beautiful tribute to Jeff. I’m so sorry to hear of Jeff’s passing. I have many great memories as a kid with Sean and Jeff both. My heart aches for the whole Hayes family.

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        November 10, 2019 4:50 am

        Thank you Tina for your kind comments. It is good hearing from you, but for a sad reason. Sean always thought of you as a good friend too. We all had some good memories back in the day at Providence. I really miss those days…hope you and your family are doing well.
        May the Lord bless you always!
        Cherie, Pat, Sean & Charity

    • Andi Ford
      October 31, 2019 12:43 am

      Dear Pat and Cherie,
      I’m so very sorry for the loss of your precious son. I always felt like Jeff and I had a bond due to the diabetes disease we both shared. He understood me and I understood him. I loved Jeff’s kind-hearted spirit he always had, and sweet countenance. It made him such a joy to be around. Your tribute Cherie, was just precious and perfectly worded. Our boys might grow up, but they are still our little boys forever in our hearts.
      My prayers are with you, Pat, Sean and all the family. We know heaven will be that much sweeter when our time comes. What a day that will be…….
      Love you all,

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        November 10, 2019 5:00 am

        Precious words of comfort Andi…it’s so good to hear from you. Now that I know you are often up here in our neck of the woods, we will have to make time to see each other.
        Yes, you were special to me as well, knowing you had to deal with many of the same issues Jeff did…due to diabetes. I pray you continue to be well through many years ahead.

        It was wonderful talking with your Mom recently. I always loved her, what a great Christian lady she is and John Bates we love as well. Hope to see them both soon too.

        Love & blessings to you & your family,
        Cherie, Pat, Sean & Charity

    • Linda LaMonte
      November 4, 2019 8:03 pm

      Cherie, I have no proper words of wisdom for you and Patrick for a loss of your child. It is also difficult for Sean to loose a brother.
      I pray that he is with the Lord at Peace and out of Pain. God Bless Your Entire family, The Lord makes his choices, and although we don’t understand now being so full of emotional Grief/Loss, in time. Talk to him, jokes of the past and set a plate out on the holidays, because he will be around…. It could be Cardinals, the smell of this cologne, dreams to him calling your name. I have experienced all.

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        November 10, 2019 5:06 am

        Dear Linda…I know you are more than familiar with what we are going through. Your words mean so much and carry great value to us.

        Thank you again for all the time you took to encourage us with words and the visit we had together just recently. You two have a good life and a lovely home.
        Stay well and continue taking good care of each other.
        I truly enjoyed our lunch out last week. I will think of you each time I see the beautiful plant arrangement you gave us. It will always be extra special reminder of our beloved son, Jeff.

    • Jim Smith
      November 8, 2019 3:44 pm

      Dear Mr. and Mrs. Hayes, Sean, and Charity.

      I was taken back with the sad news of Jeff’s passing and the thought of all the emotions you as a family are now wrestling through. There is never a right enough message to share to comfort the heart beyond the promises of Scripture, but please know that our hearts hurt with yours, that our own memory banks are flooded with countless stories of laughter and joy as we reflect on the years of shared life with Jeff and your family. You loved your boys with a depth that most kids can only dream of, you prayed for them like few other parents, and you carried a pride in your heart for them as big as God’s grace could allow. Given Jeff’s early life struggles and the ups and downs that followed, you loved him, served him, prayed for him, sheltered him, provided for him, wept with and for him, encouraged him, rebuked him, accepted him, and praised him with sacrificial, unconditional love. God worked through you in ways you’ll never know this side of heaven.

      Having lost my dad when he was 46 creates for me an even greater sense of heaviness for Charity and Jeff’s other younger four whom I have yet to meet. I so wish I could take away that hurt and other emotions that are flooding their minds, but only God can attend to that need.

      Please just know that we hurt with you and while your observations in the days ahead will seem like everyone has gone back to their normal life practices, I…and many others…understand that it will take years for you and the family to discover the new “normal” that God has sovereignly chosen for you as “best” for His glory. With love and appreciation for your family and the life lessons of love, grace, forgiveness, and acceptance you modeled so brilliantly for those privileged to witness.

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        November 10, 2019 5:21 am

        Dear Jim,

        So good to hear from you. I remember so well, the wonderful man your father was…he & Kathy were visiting us only a couple days before he passed. Sewing the patch on his uniform was a great privilege to me. You are such an amazing reflection of your dad. In my mind, you and Hope will always be those wonderful 9th graders in Providence Christian School I appreciated so much. What a blessing!

        I pray you and your family are doing well. God has done so much through you two for his glory…without a doubt, I am sure. I only wish we could see and hear more of you.

        Thank you for all your words of comfort.
        We cherish the fleeting years we had together so many years ago. They will never be forgotten.
        Stay well & close to Jesus,
        We love you and pray for your ministry,

        Cherie, Pat, Sean & Charity

  2. Patrick Hayes
    October 26, 2019 8:37 pm

    Jeffrey was full of energy, even as a boy, when I would scare him and his brother, Sean, outside at night, Sean would “freeze”, ready to defend, but Jeffrey would run 50 yards before he stopped, turned around, and was so relieved to see it was only his dad.

    When he was older, and working, he always worked hard to be the best at what he did, whether landscaping, restaurant chef, or warehouse work (forklift driver, loading, stocking, UPS worker, etc.) His employers could not believe how hard he worked and how well he did over & above the norm.

    Having Type 1 Diabetes 44 years, he was known by his medical workers, as the “Miracle Child”.

    I know Jeffrey will work to be the greatest worshiper of our Lord Jesus Christ in Heaven.

    I love you Jeffrey…say Hi to Jesus for me, and I will see you soon…Your Dad

  3. Debbie Holp
    October 27, 2019 12:43 am

    Jeffrey, my sweet handsome nephew! I loved you so much and I felt you loved me too. Although we lived far apart, we could always pick up where we left off, as if time stood still.

    I will never forget holding your hand and gazing at your beautiful eyes at the hospital, even though you couldn’t see me. You put on your best even though you were in pain. You displayed amazing strength for so long.

    Thank you Jesus for the loving mercy that you have given to Jeff. We trust he is pain free and in your presence. May we ask you to watch over his family here on earth and give them comfort and peace.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 11:15 am

      Debbie, It meant the world to me for you to come and spend time with Jeff while he was hospitalized. He had few visitors and yes, Jeffrey did love you very much. He loved his cousins and Uncle Rodney too! Michelle & Jeff had birthdays so close together, and that was very special too. Distance never changed the closeness in heart to all of you.
      We are so glad we will get extra special time with your family and Teresa this week.
      Thank you for making it all happen…and all the things you’ve done to ease as much pain and suffering as humanly possible. May God pour out His richest blessings upon you and yours, for all you do for everyone, not only us.

      See you tomorrow evening,
      Love, hugs, kisses, & so much gratitude to you all,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

  4. Debbie Holp
    October 27, 2019 12:54 am

    Such a beautiful tribute!

    • Larry Vincent & Anne Vincent
      October 27, 2019 6:29 pm

      We were very saddened to hear of Jeff’s passing. We had hoped and prayed for a healing miracle that can only come from GOD. Apparently that was not GOD’s plan for Jeff. He is at peace now. Jeff has left his parents, his wife and children, family members and friends for now. We only hope that all those who are grieving his passing will be comforted by knowing that he is with GOD. Jeff will not be forgotten he has just gone to a better place and is not in pain any longer. The sadness we all feel will pass but the memories of Jeff will remain through out our lives.
      Uncle Larry & Aunt Anne

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        October 28, 2019 11:19 am

        Thank you Uncle Larry & Anne for your words of comfort & support in our time of loss.
        You have been wonderful to keep in touch and follow up on all the phases of our journey here and now.
        God bless you and your family always,
        Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

  5. Linda Horne
    October 27, 2019 8:27 am

    Heart overwhelmed and breaking for our friends who truly show what the Love of Jesus is !!! May The comfort of the Holy Spirit be made known during this time!!! We love your family and holding you up in prayers!!! Love the Hornes who are blessed to have Charity as our Grandaughter married to our grandson Josh!!!

    • Jene' Howard
      October 28, 2019 6:31 am

      Love and prayers. What a testimony in such a hard time. God bless each of you. Blessed to call you family.

      • Cheryl H. Hayes
        October 28, 2019 11:32 am

        Thank you Jene’ for your comforting words and especially your prayers. Your son is a tremendous blessing to us and our family. I am so glad he can attend the services for Jeff. Charity’s dad thought very highly of Josh, I am glad they were able to meet several times in life. We will ALL meet again in that perfect place called Heaven…no more pain, suffering or tears, Praise the Lord!

        Love to you & all your family,
        God bless,

        Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 11:26 am

      Thank you Linda & Gene for your words of love & comfort for us and our family. You two are very special friends and appreciate you very much. Jesus has it all under control and only because of Him, we will make it through. We are thankful for the 46 years He allowed us to have Jeffrey in our live.
      I am calling you today…we have been overwhelmed with so many things taking up time to prepare for our TN trip and the “Celebration of Life” service on Wednesday. We had too little time to get everything done, so it will be a big blur in time to come, I am sure. I look forward to talking with you. Josh is so supportive and kind in every way, I think he will say a few words on behalf of Charity at the service. We love him dearly!

      Much love & gratitude,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

  6. Bob and Peggy VanVliet
    October 27, 2019 1:03 pm

    Jeff will be missed by all but he is in a better place and he will live in our hearts until that day we will meet again. Cherie you and Pat were the best parents any child could hope for you were always there emotionally, spiritually,and even finationally for him no one could ask for more. He will live on in our hearts . God bless 🙏🙏 you all. Love Aunt Peggy

  7. Bob and Peggy VanVliet
    October 27, 2019 1:12 pm

    We all feel your pain and send our love and prayers for family left behind. He will be missed but he is free of suffering and in a better place . We will all be together soon love you ❤️ all.

  8. Carla Bryant Rentschlar
    October 27, 2019 5:45 pm

    What a beautiful tribute Mrs. Hayes ❤️ Hugs and prayers for all of the family and friends.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 11:38 am

      Dear Peggy & Bob,
      You two mean so much to us. Thank you for your words of comfort and love. Jeff loved you too!
      We look forward to time and heartfelt talks this coming weekend. Jeff and Megan had much in common, in good ways, like being so loving & tender-hearted, thoughtful, and sensitive people. Both were beautiful inside and out. Though they had their struggles we will always love and miss them tremendously. They suffer no more.
      See you soon,
      Love Pat & Cherie, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 1:52 pm

      Thank you Carla for your sweet & thoughtful message to us regarding Jeffrey. He would be so appreciative you took the time to send it.
      Lord bless you & yours,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 1:59 pm

      Thank you very much Carla for your sweet message…it would mean a lot to Jeff and it certainly does to us as well.

      God bless and keep you well,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity (Jeff’s daughter, & husband, Josh)

  9. Susan Huff
    October 27, 2019 6:51 pm

    Cherie, fourteen years ago you were a rock for me when my son lay in ICU in a coma. You held me up and let me talk and cry and you understood what I was going through at the time. You were the only person I could confide in with no judgement. I am so broken hearted that Jeff has list his earthly battle. But we both knowt he is seeing heaven with new eyes and no more shots and stuck fingers. Both of your sons were truly blessed by the loving parents you and Pat are. Cherie, if you need to talk I will always be here for you. As Christians we know what the end has in store for us. If you need to talk my phone # is 850-443-2092 and my email is I am praying for you and Pat that you will be iverwhekmed by God’s love and prace.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:12 pm

      Susan, It’s so wonderful to hear from you. I think of you often. Those talks meant so much to me as well. We did share our hearts together, so long ago…but still we remember. God gave us that special time to help each other. Now, He is doing it again, at this grievous time in our lives. It means more than I can say to get your msg. regarding our son, Jeff.
      I will be calling you soon after we go through this hard seek ahead. We will return sometime around Nov. 5th or 6th.
      Heading to Nashville from here in Cleveland, GA tomorrow, then home again this Thursday, pack and go to Tampa the next day, til the 5th and back. Please keep us in your prayers as we cover all the many miles ahead.
      I look forward to talking with you and sharing the journey we have been going through. Thankfully, Jeff suffers no more, and he suffered for 7 awful months. He’s at rest and with our Lord Jesus now, pain or tears. The tears are all ours til we see him again.

      Hope you, Gary and all your family are well,
      With love and appreciation for your prayers,
      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

  10. Ryan Geer
    October 27, 2019 7:39 pm

    Mr. & Mrs. Hayes and Sean,
    You guys and Jeff were such a huge part of my childhood and though we’ve drifted apart as life has led us to different places geographically, you all have never been far from my heart and my mind. I was so, so sad to hear about Jeff. So many memories of late nights at your house when our families would get together and we kids would be up to no good until we finally passed out on the floor while you adults argued about something… I hope we might be able to talk or even just email sometime. Please know that I’m praying for you guys and that many years apart do not dampen the sadness I carry in my heart for Jeff and for your loss. Love you all.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:22 pm

      Loved hearing your voice and words of comfort yesterday Ryan. You are so special to all of us. I hope we can have more talks together from now on. Jeff loved the growing up years with you and your sisters. You three were just like our own. God blessed us with so many tremendous years, that will never be forgotten. One day (hopefully soon) we will join your dad, sister, Heather, our dear son, Jeffrey and other family on both sides in that glorious place called Heaven.
      Please stay well and may the Lord bless you & your family always! We would like to see you at the first opportunity in the future. Please stay in touch. We love and miss you so much.

      God bless & keep you well,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh

  11. Larry and Terry Green and family
    October 27, 2019 10:28 pm

    Dear Jeff, You were always so fun to be around; always, always laughing, telling the funniest stories. Sometimes too hard to believe!! But knowing you I knew they must be true.
    You would always lite up a room with your charm, too.
    I remember through all our laughs and visits you were so kind but most of all… so loving.
    Your cousin, Trinity will really miss you, too. She has great memories of you at your mother and fathers house. I think the two of you could relate.
    I look forward to the day we will meet in heaven; it will be a glorious for all.
    Matthew 5:4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

    Aunt Terry

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:26 pm

      The perfect scripture to do just that…”comfort” us in our time of such mourning.
      Thank you Teresa for sharing and reminding us about the Greatest Comforter of all, the Holy Spirit. He has already shown us His power and we will need it continuously until we see Jeffrey in Heaven one day.

  12. Stacey Work
    October 27, 2019 10:55 pm

    Jeff, man this blew my mind and my heart breaks for Jen and the babies. I only knew you a few months from work and you got on my nerves calling me bruh but I wish I could hear you say it again. You will be missed my friend (bruh)

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:28 pm

      Thank you Stacey for the time you were in Jeff’s life and for your message to all of his family.
      We appreciate all your help to him when you worked together.
      God bless you and yours.

  13. Toni Lydon Vaccaro
    October 27, 2019 11:36 pm

    Pat and Cherie, I was so sad to hear about the passing of your beautiful son. My prayers will be with you and your family.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:32 pm

      Thank you Toni for your kind thoughts and message about our son, Jeff. It means a lot when you have take time to reach out to us and offer your prayers.

      God bless and keep you well,
      In Christ’s love,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean,Charity (Jeff’s daughter & husband) Josh

  14. Doris Pritt
    October 28, 2019 9:23 am

    Pat & Cherie,
    May God be with you as you suffer through the pain of loss! Jeffery was such a handsome man and God blessed him with children who will forever be a part of him. Jim and I are so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and prayers for comfort in the days, months and years ahead.
    Peace and comfort to all.
    Doris and Jim

    • cheryl h hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:40 pm

      Thank you Doris for your words of comfort regarding the loss of our youngest son, Jeffrey. It was go good to hear from you. Special people reach out during times like this and you are among those for sure. Wish we lived close in order to see you, Jim and other Leto friends.
      We will get those hugs one day when we see you, but your prayers help us cope with the here & now–that’s a wonderful blessing too.

      You & Jim take care of each other.
      Stay well, hope to see you in the near future.
      God bless you & yours,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity, & Josh

  15. Patricia Bond
    October 28, 2019 11:14 am

    Cherie, Pat, and Family,
    My prayers and love are with you all.
    May God surround you and give you peace. His grace and His love is sufficient.
    I will continue to remember y’all.
    Loving you In Christ!

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      October 28, 2019 2:47 pm

      So good to get your message of love and concern. You know Jeffrey and Patrick were such good buddies back in the day. So many good memories.

      We thank you for your prayers that will definitely comfort us to make it through the grieving in the days ahead.

      God bless you & your family always,
      Stay well,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean, Charity & Josh (Jeff’s daughter & husband)

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:00 am

      Dear Patricia,
      Just want to thank you for the exceptionally beautiful flowers you sent for Jeffrey’s services! It touched our hearts that you would go the extra mile to remember & honor him with that lovely arrangement. I took a picture of it and plan to place it in a special memorial book I want to make about Jeff. I hope Patrick, you, and all your family are well and happy.
      Patrick was such a special friend to Jeff.
      God bless,


  16. Vernon and Sandra
    October 28, 2019 5:12 pm

    Patrick and Cherie,
    We know Jeff’s passing will forever be in your hearts. You guys stood tall and didn’t waiver, standing by Jeff during his difficult time. You were encouraging, inspirational and loving to him as any parents could be. We will continue to pray for your comfort now and in the future. We are here for you and will continue to pray that our dear Lord will give you comfort, peace and you will feel his presents during this difficult time.

    • cheryl h hayes
      October 28, 2019 8:20 pm

      Read your thoughtful message and it means a lot. I am going to print out this obituary page with Jeffrey’s picture, information, and everyone’s comments. I had to go through “hundreds” of pictures yesterday and today for the funeral home. They give as a gift to the immediate family, a collage, of up to 75 photos, in making a huge framed collage for Jenn & the children. This place is very special and seems to think of everything to comfort family & friends. They provide so many things.

      Jane Geer called today, her son, Ryan called from Taiwan yesterday, he’s a missionary there. Then Frieda Bates called us today. Quite a few Providence school friends left us messages too. It’s so wonderful all the memories of our years there. Our relatives have helped us so much with support of every kind, love, financial, prayers, you name it. They have been a tremendous blessing. My sisters, their spouses, Pat’s brothers, sisters and their spouses, my uncle & aunt, nieces, nephews, cousins, you name it. What a help they have all been during this sad time.

      Tomorrow we leave for TN to stay overnight with my two sisters. Sean is going to drive straight to Hendersonville early on Wednesday morning. He will have to drive home immediately following the services…he has to be at work on Thursday a.m. Poor fella, Atlanta is 1 1/2 hrs. to the job for him.

      Thank you both for your message of encouragement and your prayers. This will be the hardest week of our lives. So many memories, and they went by so fast…just a vapor as the Bible says.
      We will be in touch once we get home a week from tomorrow, after the wedding in FL.

      Jeffrey loved your family. Greg & Susanne were close friends of his for sure. We are comforted to know the Lord will take much better care of Jeffrey than we could ever do. No more pain, suffering or tears for him. We still have our tears, but a whole lot of joy when we meet up in Heaven. I know you guys feel the same way about your family getting reunited on that glorious day in the future. Hope it is not very far off.

      We love & appreciate you both so much,
      Thanks for your continued prayers…losing Jeff, we need them more than ever.

      God bless and keep you & yours well,
      Patrick & Cherie, Sean, Charity & Josh

  17. Shannon and Paul
    October 29, 2019 9:57 am

    Pat and Cherie:
    What beautifully written tributes you wrote. I could not get through them without crying. Jeff lives on in our hearts forever. Sending heartfelt prayers your way. Peace and love to your family in this time of great loss. Love you!

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:15 am

      Jeff loved his cousins! I love you all too!
      It was so good seeing you guys over the weekend.
      Stay well and thank you for your ongoing prayers,
      Love and blessings to you & yours,

  18. Susan (Hayes) Graham
    October 29, 2019 12:20 pm

    Pat and Cherie,

    What a beautiful tribute. So sorry to hear about Jeff. May God wrap his arms around you to give you comfort.
    We lost touch over time, but I remember the day Jeff was born.

    Susan (Hayes) Graham

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:11 am

      Thanks so much for taking time to remember Jeff and sharing your thoughts with us. It means more than words can say.
      I was so happy to see Shannon, Paul, Kim and Jimmy this past weekend. They are very precious to me. I remember when your 3 were children too. What great memories we have of each of them. Wish I could see them more often.
      I was sorry to hear of the loss of your husband…I know you took the very best care of him. What a wonderful reunion we look for in the future!
      God is good, all the time!
      Blessings and peace to you always,


  19. Tiffany (Everhart) Drake
    October 29, 2019 5:31 pm

    Dear Mr. and Mrs. Hayes,
    I am so saddened to hear of Jeff’s passing. You were so helpful to me while dealing with my own child’s diabetes diagnosis and willing to share his experiences to help me along. I remember Jeff very well from my childhood and was so thankful our paths were crossed. Lifting your family in prayer daily!

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:20 am

      Thank you so much for your sweet message regarding Jeff. He would have loved spending time with you and your son, talking about managing type I diabetes. He would have wanted to help in any way he could. I hope you and your son will have many happy, healthy year ahead.

      May God bless and protect you and all your family,

  20. jesalyn holp
    October 30, 2019 6:44 am

    Jeff, you are loved and will be deeply missed.
    We send all our love to you Aunt Cherie and Uncle Pat.

    With Love, Jesalyn

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:27 am

      Thank you Jesalyn, for your thoughts regarding Jeff. I only wish you guys could have had more opportunities to get together. One day, we will have all the opportunities in the world, to spend time throughout eternity with each other. What a great day that will be! Til then, stay well and take care of that precious son of yours, Javien. Time goes by too fast!

      Love & Many Blessings,
      Uncle Pat & Aunt Cherie, Cousin Sean, Charity & Josh

  21. Sheree Whitlock Dixon
    October 30, 2019 9:32 am

    I am so sorry to hear off Jeff’s passing. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. He is with Jesus, whole again. I remember so much of your loving family, please know how deeply sorry I am for your loss.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:31 am

      So good hearing from you Sherry…Jeff would really appreciate your words of comfort. Especially about “being whole” now with Jesus. Knowing that, gives me the most comfort of all.
      Thanks for taking time to share your thoughts!
      Love and Lord’s blessings upon you,
      Pat & Cherie Hayes

  22. Heidi Holbert(Parker)
    October 30, 2019 9:50 am

    Oh my I have been flooded with so many childhood memories. All the late nights spent at your house just hoping we would get to spend the night. What a blast we had. I am so sorry you are in pain but praise God Jeff has a brand new body. Those blue eyes of his would for sure light up a room. Praying God brings comfort to you and Mr. Hayes and those beautiful grand babies. Safe travels!!

    • cheryl h hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:35 am

      Wonderful to hear from you Heidi…I have thought of you many times and hoped you are happy and doing well.

      Yes, memories are all we have right now, but one day, we will all be joined together in that glorious place called Heaven!
      Til then, we watch and pray. Thanks for your sweet comments regarding Jeff.

      We love and miss seeing you,
      Stay well, and God bless you and yours!

  23. Bob and Suzi Parker
    October 30, 2019 12:56 pm

    My heart is breaking for you all ! So sorry to hear about Jeffs passing ! We have so many great memories of our families while at Providence ! All those late nights ! (Never forget the pantyhose !) I pray the Lord will give you comfort that only he can give ! Jeff has a new home and a new body and no more suffering ! I love all of you ! Praying for grace and peace !

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:42 am

      Oh how great it is to hear from you! It’s hard going through the loss of a child…even one that is 46. But, as you said, he is brand new and perfect in Christ now. We grieve for ourselves, because we miss him and can see him no more in “this” life. We would love to be in touch sometime soon, we miss you all!
      Thanks for your prayers. We hope all is well and happy with you and yours,
      Love to each every one of you,

      Cherie, Pat, Sean & Charity

  24. Joey Ford
    October 30, 2019 2:33 pm

    So sorry to hear of Jeff’s passing but rejoicing that he is diabetes free with no more sugar reactions or suffering! You folks were always a picture of unconditional and unceasing love for Jeff. I look with fond memories on those X when he was in the Providence youth group and you guys were so supportive of The youth ministry there. May God bless you and give you an unusual Grace!

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:49 am

      So good to read your message…Jeff thought so very much of you, Joey, and the youth ministry, you led. Seems like ages ago. He had his struggles, but we truly believe he was ready to meet the Lord at the last. There’s where our greatest peace lies, Jeff being in good standing with the Lord. So, now we wait for that glorious day we can all meet the Lord in the air, and so shall we ever be…thank God!
      We thank you for your kind words toward us and Jeffrey.
      I hope all is well with you & yours,
      God bless you

  25. Kim Batchelor Evarts
    October 30, 2019 2:39 pm

    Mr and Mrs Hayes,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that I am praying your family.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:51 am

      Thank you Kim, we really appreciate your prayers. They mean a lot.
      I hope you are doing good and are happy in the Lord!
      We always loved and thought so much of your family. Tell them all hello for us.
      In Christ’s Love,

  26. Wendy Bradley (Parker)
    October 30, 2019 5:23 pm

    So many childhood memories are with Jeff. All those late nights just praying we could spend the night. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thankfully you know where he is and csn be assured you will see him again in a brand new body. Love to you all.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 6, 2019 1:54 am

      Thanks for your prayers and sweet words of comfort. We all share those good memories together. Wish I could see you sometime in the near future. Hope you are happy and well.
      Lord bless you always,
      Cherie, Pat, Sean & Charity

  27. Jennifer Hayes
    November 6, 2019 10:59 pm

    This still doesn’t feel real. I miss you so much. Some days I feel like you’ll be walking in the door from a long day at work or that you’re in bed taking a nap. The pain of losing you is almost too much to bare but I have our beautiful children to help me get through it. I never wanted to live this life without you. Still don’t think I’ll be able to. I just wan to hear your voice again or just have one more day to tell you everything I wish I would’ve said. I love you. God please give me the strength to make it. I love you forever and always, my love. I’ll be seeing you.

    • Cheryl H. Hayes
      November 10, 2019 5:42 am

      Dear Jenn,
      I know you miss Jeff, just as we do. In time, you will be able to cope and see him in the many expressions & actions of the children. That is truly a gift God gives to you to see your husband again & again through this life. Yes, you will see him again and for all eternity…your family reunited in glorious happiness forever. God WILL “give you the strength to make it’. You will always miss him until then, but just know the power to hold up under the loss comes from our Savior & Lord Jesus. Stay close to him always and you will have all the strength you need for your children and to honor the memory of our precious Jeff. He is happy, well, and whole right this minute. He will be spending this Christmas with Jesus. There’s no better gift than that. I know Jeff would want you to know how very much he loved you.

      We love you, Domonic,Gabriel, Jeffrey Jr. & Scarlett

      Mimi & Papa Hayes

  28. Gregory Perry
    April 29, 2020 11:59 pm

    Really sorry about your loss, I had no idea this happened. Jeff was, and still is, awesome.


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